New Blog Name: Life, The Universe, and Everything

Answer_to_Life_42Some blogs limit themselves to little topic. Things like physics, literature, photography, or ethics.

They are wimps.

That is not to say they are stupid (quite the opposite), it is to say that lack the courage to take on not just any issue or topic, but to take on all of them.

Yes, this blog will now explore Life, The Universe, and Everything. Now I have a forum to discuss all of my character flaws, not just the one’s related to pornography.

I can’t wait.



Wanted: Good Blog Name

which-direction-do-i-turnWhen I started this blog last year, I was looking for an outlet for my thoughts and accountability for my actions. I was focused on helping others who had struggled with pornography but also keeping in front of me the reminder of why I was leaving that sin behind.

The pool of topics seemed inexhaustible. At one point, I was two weeks ahead in my writing because there was simply so much to say. As the months passed, I trimmed back from posting daily to only three times a week. This pace has been manageable for me. I have always feared that I would post simply because I was supposed to and that the material would suffer.

Over the last few weeks, it has gotten harder and harder to find anything new to write on the blog that was porn related. I have much I want to say on other topics, but this blog is called Porn and the Christian Guy because it has that focus.

It seems I have typed myself out of a blog.

It is time for a change. I am changing the blogs name to reflect the new focus on my own thoughts and struggles as son of God, husband,  father, and son. There are so many questions and challenges I want to write about. The thought of a broader scope is very exciting.

Certainly I will continue to write about porn. In fact, I want to continue to Porn and the Christian Guy series, but only as often as I feel I have something worth writing about. The Count Vicegrim Letters will continue. I want to start a new series called Food and the Christian Guy to address my own idolatry with food. Finally, I want to more deeply explore the struggles and joys of being a husband and father.

But with this come a dilemma: what should I call the blog? I have considered many options including Being a Man, Fatherhood, Loving My Wife, Courage in a Cowardly World, etc…

None of these seem to hit the spot so I would love for my readers to offer any feedback about any names that would descriptively title the sorts of things I will be to write. Please put any suggestions on the comments section. You all are more creative than I am, so I look forward to your suggestions.

Finally, I want to thank all of my readers. It means so much to me that you follow the blog. If you weren’t there, I wouldn’t be writing. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to write.


With Dad, in the Kitchen

My son recently came up to me while I was in the kitchen.

“I want to help” he said, looking up at me. 

i considered that being that he is three, It is doubt any of the actual cooking is a good idea for him. 

“Could you put the bowls on the table for breakfast?” I asked. 

He ran over to the drawer where the bowls are. He grabbed a pile of them and walked to the table. Carefully and thoughtfully selecting the bowl that is the right color for the right person. He knew who would want a pink one and who would want a yellow one. He eventually finished getting all the bowls where he wanted them. 

He walked back to me, “I got the bowls!:” he said with an excited look on his face. 

“I don’t see one for me. Could you pick one out for me?” I asked. 

He then hurried to the bowl drawer again and selected the perfect bowl for me. Imagine a pink paint store exploded, this is the bowl he selected for me. It is most certainly the wrong bowl for me. 

He returns and looks up at me, delighted to be helping. “I got you a bowl dada!”

“Thank you. You are a big helper.” He then ran off to play while I finished breakfast. 

When i started this blog, I didn’t expect to learn how much I wanted attention. There is this thirst in my soul to be admired and thought wise. It was revealing in my heart when I would watch the blog so carefully for when the viewership is up an down. i am happy when it was up. I was disappointed when it was down.

Which led me to a question. Whose blog is it? When I introduce it, I always say it is my blog. But maybe it is my blog only in the sense that my son was distributing his bowls. He is not overly concerned with ownership of the bowls. He is concerned with my approval and sharing in the experience of making breakfast with me.

My son has a lot to teach me. This is God’s blog. The joy I should feel is the joy of working together with my dada in what he is doing. The numbers of visitors and the impact that the blog has on them, that is too big a thing for me. If God sent one visitor and that one visitor wasn’t even helped, it should be OK with me. Why? Because I am not in the kitchen to really make breakfast. That is dada’s job. I am in the kitchen to enjoy some time working with my dada and “helping” him make whatever he wants to make.

There is real joy in that. My son does want a breakfast out of it as much as I really want to help those struggling with porn. But it is dada’s job to make sure the work is effective. How cool is it that I get to help in the kitchen? He might even let me pick his bowl.


Two Bloggers from the Hills of Tennessee

As a new blogger who is learning the ropes, I want to honor one of the people inspired me to start blogging in the first place. Cap Stewart is a friend from my childhood in East Tennessee. The last time I actually saw Cap was probably more than ten years ago.

So imagine my surprise when he puts out a blog post on his blog Happier Far and it is quite good. Now every blog gets a good post in once and a while, so I read another. This one was also very good.

Happier Far is the best blog that none of you have heard of. Cap does a good job of holding to scripture and giving some honest and unflattering accounts of his heart at work. I would go so far as to say if you must choose between my blog and his, read his.

Two of my favorite of Cap’s posts that give a good feel for his blog. When is Public Indecency Acceptable explains how he dealt with a couple taking most of their clothes off on a plane. You’ll be surprised at how often this happens.

Sex, Lies, and Star Trek is his journey as  a trekkie choosing NOT to see Star Trek: Into Darkness. Sometimes Jesus asks us to give up things, even Star Trek.

Thank you Cap for your blog and I hope my readers see what you have to offer.